Recently, I am addicted to a tv series which feeds on my thirst for knowledge on dogs. It is the Dog Whisperer! The host of the series, dubbed as the Dog Whisperer, is non other than the amazing Cesar Millan. He's a gifted Mexican, who underwent English classes and now speaks very fluent English. Besides getting to know how to handle problematic dogs, the approach he uses is amusing. He understands what dogs need, physically and psychologically, and rehabilitate both the dogs and also the owners, so that they can share moments of their lives together happily.
In dealing with dogs which have issues related to aggressiveness, terrified or frustration, he approach them with calm and assertive ways, and address their problems. He states that dogs are natural follower, and they are able to pick the energy of the human immediately. So its important to choose a dog with energy lower or equal than yours. If the dog is of high energy and you don't fully utilise his energy, they will turn to other means to release the energy, which resulted in dogs behaving in aggressive ways, or obsessed over certain stuff. They will live their lives miserably, and this is not healthy for the human too.
I am impressed with the way he approaches and addresses the issue of a particular dog. I hope I can apply the knowledge learnt in my daily life too! For instance, if two dogs engaged in a fight, both of them have fault. If one dog is nervous and uncertain, the other dog can easily pick up this energy and initiate a fight with it. Same goes to us human. Both parties have fault in an event of argument or fight. If one is not calm and assertive enough, people will tend to provoke him and manage to result in a fight. If you are calm and stand firm on your ground, you will not be provoked so easily! The second you give in to the "invitation" of an unpleasant event, you lose. Therefore, the moral of this case is to be calm and be firm on your stand when you deal with people, so that you are able to avoid conflicts.
I know that patience is never my virtue. I get impatient and mad easily when things don't end up how I expect them to be, or a person does not act what I expect them to. This is one of the issue I had identified and need to work on. I used to love treating people how they treated me. The reacting type of person. I am not the person who initiates, treat people how you want to be treated, you see. If people treat me really good, I'll make sure I treat them extra good. Vice versa, if I get ill treated by people, I will treat them worse then what they had done to me.
Well, to be honest. this is not a good way particularly when I deal with hot tempered people. I used to think, yes, she knows she's a bad tempered girl, but she wouldn't change, yet she uses it as an excuse during one of our heated argument "You know very clear that my temper is not good, I'm working on it, but can't you understand me and tolerate just a little bit?". I thought she was being unfair and unreasonable having made this statement. Does she mean that she is born with that terrible temper of hers, and this earns her the right to be harsh on me and I should understand, not start a fight and be patient with her? I hated people to be harsh on me, having born with a such mellow nature, I can't understand why would somebody wanna do that to me! I mean no harm to anybody at all. Let alone my dearest one! Foul words slashed on me mercilessly, cold stare like I'm too blunt not to get an obvious fact, twisted words with evil hidden meaning.. I am affected by surrounding easily, and these are all the negative signals that I pick up. I really did't think I deserve all these. What have I done for you to speak unkind words to provoke me!
And finally, I realized the reason behind. I must have not stood firm on my ground, I am not calm nor assertive enough on my principles, I appear to be astray in other's eyes and these attracted people to provoke me. And true enough, I usually give in, defend my bruised precious ego, and this is just the start of argument or fight waiting to happen. I am not aware that my uncertain behavior is welcoming malicious acts from people. Its time to gather myself, focus on bigger goals in life, stop dwelling on little matters that seems imperfect. Yes this is saddening, but this can be done. Cesar never gives up on any dogs, even if they have serious problems, because in his eyes, no one is born like this. Every being is born pure, and throughout their growth, they pick up energy from everybody, they learn to deal with things in life and it is the surrounding that makes a dog behave like this, same goes to human beings I believe. There is something to be done, and I should never give up, nor give in.
God sent every single being into this world for a purpose. Be it a huge destiny, that you're the future president of a country, or invent a cure to a deadly disease, or the person to discover unknown lives in outer space; or small purposes such as being a normal human and live through the years. Everything is a course, planned and destined. It is up to you to make people acknowledge your existence, make changes that could impact people's lives. Maybe my destiny is to change people, and this is just an obstacle in my life journey. God has sent her to challenge me, and I should accept this challenge in order to be a better person!
From just a TV show, to these whole lot of thoughts. This is why I am so addicted to the show. Cesar Millan is an inspiring person. I appreciate to have this opportunity to see life in different perspective. And on behalf of millions of dogs that you had rehabilitate, saved and changed, thank you Cesar. I hope to be like you someday, to help the animals. Keep it up.
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